Think it Through
Talk it Out
It may be difficult to determine if you’re dealing with an actual frenemy or just going through a rough patch with a friend. There is a distinguishing factor. The frenemy and emotional vampire are often one in the same. An emotional vampire is a person who drains the happiness and positivity from your life. This is someone who thrives on negativity, drama and conflict. You might feel a subconscious dread when you know that you are going to see them or a relief when they leave your presence. How do you spot such a person? Be wary of those who often deliver underhanded comments, subliminally trying to bring you down. A frememy is not a very good source of support and is often absent when you need a shoulder to cry on. Also, remember that misery loves company. This person might love to remind you of mistakes that you’ve made in the past and will be less than thrilled when good things happen for you.
While breaking up with a frenemy can be an extremely difficult and emotionally draining task, it’s a necessary and inevitable part of life. Sometimes, we outgrow things that we once cherished (see: your lime green glitter nail polish/Hannah Montana bedspread/high school boyfriend). Frenemies and other toxic relationships bring psychological clutter into your life, causing you to neglect other important relationships. If, at some point, you realize that most of the negativity in your life stems from a particular source, take the time to evaluate that relationship. If you find that you’ve got a frenemy on your hands, you’ll know what to do.
By: Adjoa Bruce | Image: Source