What should you do if you are in a relationship with someone who will soon be attending school in a different town, state, or country? As summertime winds down, the inevitable, “Should we stay together or break up?” question is bound to come up soon. And if it doesn’t? Well, that’s your answer right there. As a girl who had to make this decision for herself four years ago, I’ve listed the major pros and cons of staying with your sweetie past this summer.
Pro: You Stay Together
Whether he’s been your guy since you were five or fifteen, there’s something about him that you absolutely adore. Screw frat parties and guys you meet in class – your man has it all and no one else will do. Staying in a loving, committed relationship during times of change is comforting and provides much-needed support. You can avoid a painful and untimely break-up and go on with the hope that someday, you will live close to each other again, in a magical land of rainbows and puppies.
Con: You’re Not Really Together
Sure, there are cell phones and Skype and texting and e-mails, but at the end of the day, he won’t be there to rub your shoulders or make you dinner in the microwave or call you out for snorting when you laugh. Also, while your friends at school are going on dates or cuddling up with a movie on a cold Saturday night, you will most likely be alone. At least, you should be if you’re doing the whole relationship thing right. This is the crucial downfall of long distance – it is hard, and sometimes very sad, to be in a relationship with a guy who cannot be there when you want him to be.
Pro: Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
You know how saying goes. And it’s true. When you spend weeks or months at a time apart from your guy, seeing him again is almost like seeing him for the first time. We’re talking butterflies, sweaty palms, and heart palpitations. And when you finally get that first glimpse of him? Game over. Because your time spent together is usually short, there is no sense in fighting or thinking about the future – it’s all happy times and giggles. You leave each other wanting more every time, and nothing makes a relationship better than that.
Con: Or It Doesn’t
As cheesy as it sounds, it’s true that college year is a time of “change” and “exploration.” Beginning college with a commitment from your past may seem like the right or easy thing to do, but people grow apart, and miles of separation can seriously change your relationship. If you don’t truly know that this is the guy for you, forever, you may soon realize that the person you were with him is not the person you are without him – and that’s ok too.
By: Kayla Parks | Image: Source